I wish I could remember that first day

I wish I could remember that first day,
First hour, first moment of your meeting me,
If bright or dim the season, it might be
Summer or Winter for aught I can say;
So unrecorded did it slip away,
So blind was I to see and to foresee,
So dull to mark the budding of my tree
That would not blossom yet for many a May.
If only I could recollect it, such
A day of days! I let it come and go
As traceless as a thaw of bygone snow;
It seemed to mean so little, meant so much;
If only now I could recall that touch,
First touch of hand in hand – Did one but know!

5 Countries with the Most Sunshine Hours per Day

Embark on a journey to the world’s most sun-soaked destinations, where the sun’s embrace enhances landscapes, cultures, and adventures.

The sun transforms mornings into golden spectacles and evenings into a painting of warm colors. For those of us with wanderlust or who love basking in sunlight, discovering destinations rich in sunshine is like uncovering hidden gems. Whether you’re planning your next journey or simply dreaming of sun-soaked places, allow me to guide you. We’ll venture into five countries where the sun generously bestows more hours of light than elsewhere, inviting us to bask in its glory. Grab your sunscreen; it’s time to chase the sun!

1. Egypt

Envision the Great Pyramids of Giza bathed in the sun’s golden light — a breathtaking scene. Egypt’s expansive deserts and rich history soak up sunny days. Cairo shines under roughly 3,800 hours of sunshine yearly. Here, sunlight doesn’t just brighten; it breathes life into bustling markets and the tranquil Nile River, narrating tales as ancient as civilization itself.

2. Australia

Welcome to the perpetual summer of Australia, particularly along the Western Australia coast and the vast Outback. Here, the sun is a constant, shining on cities like Perth for about 3,200 hours each year. But Australia’s sunshine isn’t just plentiful; it nurtures vibrant life, from Sydney’s dynamic streets to the majestic Great Barrier Reef, showcasing the sun as nature’s finest artist.

3. United States (Specifically Arizona and Nevada)

Among the diverse landscapes of the United States, Arizona and Nevada shine with their amount of sun. Yuma, Arizona, revels in around 4,000 sunshine hours annually, standing as one of the planet’s sunniest locales. The sun here promotes a lifestyle of adventure amidst the grandeur of the Grand Canyon and the vivacity of Las Vegas, where sunny days lead to starry nights.

4. South Africa

Blessed with varied ecosystems and breathtaking scenery, South Africa enjoys abundant sunshine, especially in the Northern Cape, boasting about 3,500 hours of sunshine each year. Beyond warming the land, the sun illuminates South Africa’s soul — from Cape Town’s vibrant culture to the wild expanses of Kruger National Park, showcasing the sun’s role in highlighting the beauty of diversity.

5. Spain

Spain basks in the sun’s embrace, with places like Andalusia enjoying over 3,000 hours of sunshine annually. But it’s the integration of sunlight into daily life that distinguishes Spain; it shapes the culture, from leisurely afternoons in Barcelona’s cafés to spirited flamenco dances in Seville. The sun here transforms meals into communal experiences and siestas into an art form.

In these sun-drenched nations, the sun does more than govern the day; it shapes landscapes, cultures, and memories. These destinations serve as a reminder that sometimes, all it takes is a little sunshine to light up our adventures. Whether drawn to Egypt’s historical charm, Australia’s vibrant ecosystems, the adventurous American spirit, South Africa’s diverse beauty, or Spain’s cultural richness, the sun invites you to explore. Here’s to embracing the sunlight and finding joy in its embrace on our travels. Safe journeys!

Goddess of the Night

 

What beauty reflected in love’s fair eyes,
a passion treasured beyond all measure.
As ardor stirred flames, I failed to disguise
the need in my loins ere want of pleasure.

As sweet the music I discern profound,
tis more honeyed your lips when touching mine.
Oh! My pained heart shall beckon love resound,
my moonstruck maiden, unearthly divine.

Mute, I cannot be, so near your soft breasts.
This besotted man has but scant more breath.
Grant me your pure love, not in mere request,
but with an angelic kiss ‘fore my death.

I beg thee allow the stars remain bright.
Give yourself to me ere the end of night.

Nothing Compares 2 U

 

It’s been seven hours and fifteen days
Since u took your love away
I go out every night and sleep all day
Since you took your love away
Since you been gone I can do whatever I want
I can see whomever I choose
I can eat my dinner in a fancy restaurant
But nothing
I said nothing can take away these blues
‘Cause nothing compares
Nothing compares to you

It’s been so lonely without you here
Like a bird without a song
Nothing can stop these lonely tears from falling
Tell me baby where did I go wrong
I could put my arms around every boy I see
But they’d only remind me of you
I went to the doctor and guess what he told me
Guess what he told me
He said girl you better have fun
No matter what you do
But he’s a fool
‘Cause nothing compares
Nothing compares to you
All the flowers that you planted, mama
In the back yard
All died when you went away
I know that living with you baby was sometimes hard
But I’m willing to give it another try

EYES THAT TOLD

 

It was all in her eyes,

Eyes that showed the real her.

Through her eyes, you could see past those smiling lips.

Eyes that were loud, loud like pounding drums

Eyes that were colder than a winter night.

Minute by minute, you could learn more of her story,

All just by looking into her eyes.

 

Eyes of a black crow-

Eyes that made your heart beat like hail beating on your window

Her eyes always dancing with worry-back and forth.

The eyes of acceptance, yet eyes of rage.

The eyes of sadness-creeks of water pour.

Pour over mountainous folds of skin under her eyes

From sleepless nights.

 

Her sleeves on her blouse were wrinkled,

Perhaps from wiping her wet face.

You could see her whole world through her eyes.

I choose to keep looking.

7 Ways Leaders Motivate and Demotivate Employees

7 Ways Leaders Motivate and Demotivate Employees

Few things are as costly and disruptive as leaders who kill morale. Demotivated employees underperform and then walk out the door at the first opportunity.

The scariest thing is how prevalent this lack of motivation is. Gallup research shows that 70% of employees consider themselves to be disengaged at work.

Organizations know how important it is to have motivated, engaged employees, but most fail to hold leaders accountable for making it happen. When they don’t, the bottom line suffers.

Research from the University of California found that motivated employees were 31% more productive, had 37% higher sales, and were three times more creative than demotivated employees. They were also 87% less likely to quit, according to a Corporate Leadership Council study on over 50,000 people.

Gallup research shows that a mind-boggling 70% of an employee’s motivation is influenced by his or her manager. It’s no wonder employees don’t leave jobs; they leave managers.

First, Quit Making Things Worse

Before leaders can start creating motivated, engaged employees, there are some critical things that they need to stop doing. What follows are some of the worst behaviors that leaders need to eradicate from the workplace.

Making a lot of stupid rules. Companies need to have rules—that’s a given—but they don’t have to be short sighted and lazy attempts at creating order. Whether it’s an overzealous attendance policy or taking employees’ frequent flier miles, even a couple of unnecessary rules can drive people crazy. When good employees feel like big brother is watching, they’ll find someplace else to work.

Letting accomplishments go unrecognized. It’s easy to underestimate the power of a pat on the back, especially with top performers who are intrinsically motivated. Everyone likes kudos, none more so than those who work hard and give their all. Rewarding individual accomplishments shows that you’re paying attention. Managers need to communicate with their people to find out what makes them feel good (for some, it’s a raise; for others, it’s public recognition) and then to reward them for a job well done. With top performers, this will happen often if you’re doing it right.

Hiring and promoting the wrong people. Good, hard-working employees want to work with like-minded professionals. When managers don’t do the hard work of hiring good people, it’s a major demotivator for those stuck working alongside them. Promoting the wrong people is even worse. When you work your tail off only to get passed over for a promotion that’s given to someone who glad-handed their way to the top, it’s a massive insult. No wonder it makes good people leave.

Treating everyone equally. While this tactic works with school children, the workplace ought to function differently. Treating everyone equally shows your top performers that no matter how high they perform (and, typically, top performers are work horses), they will be treated the same as the bozo who does nothing more than punch the clock.

Tolerating poor performance. It’s said that in jazz bands, the band is only as good as the worst player; no matter how great some members may be, everyone hears the worst player. The same goes for a company. When you permit weak links to exist without consequence, they drag everyone else down, especially your top performers.

Going back on their commitments. Making promises to people places you on the fine line that lies between making them very happy and watching them walk out the door. When you uphold a commitment, you grow in the eyes of your employees because you prove yourself to be trustworthy and honorable (two very important qualities in a boss). But when you disregard your commitment, you come across as slimy, uncaring, and disrespectful. After all, if the boss doesn’t honor his or her commitments, why should everyone else?

Being apathetic. More than half of people who leave their jobs do so because of their relationship with their boss. Smart companies make certain their managers know how to balance being professional with being human. These are the bosses who celebrate an employee’s success, empathize with those going through hard times, and challenge people, even when it hurts. Bosses who fail to really care will always have high turnover rates. It’s impossible to work for someone eight-plus hours a day when they aren’t personally involved and don’t care about anything other than your productivity.

Then, Make Things Better

Once leaders have eradicated the seven negative behaviors that demotivate their best people, it’s time to replace them with the following seven behaviors that make people love their jobs.

Follow the platinum rule. The Golden Rule (treat others as you want to be treated) has a fatal flaw: it assumes that all people want to be treated the same way. It ignores the fact that people are motivated by vastly different things. One person loves public recognition, while another loathes being the center of attention. The Platinum Rule (treat others as they want to be treated) corrects that flaw. Good managers are great at reading other people, and they adjust their behavior and style accordingly.

Be strong without being harsh. Strength is an important quality in a leader. People will wait to see if a leader is strong before they decide to follow his or her lead or not. People need courage in their leaders. They need someone who can make difficult decisions and watch over the good of the group. They need a leader who will stay the course when things get tough. People are far more likely to show strength themselves when their leader does the same. A lot of leaders mistake domineering, controlling, and otherwise harsh behavior for strength. They think that taking control and pushing people around will somehow inspire a loyal following. Strength isn’t something you can force on people; it’s something you earn by demonstrating it time and again in the face of adversity. Only then will people trust that they should follow you.

Remember that communication is a two-way street. Many managers think that they’re great communicators, not realizing that they’re only communicating in one direction. Some pride themselves on being approachable and easily accessible, yet they don’t really hear the ideas that people share with them. Some managers don’t set goals or provide context for the things they ask people to do, and others never offer feedback, leaving people wondering if they’re more likely to get promoted or fired.

Be a role model, not a preacher. Great leaders inspire trust and admiration through their actions, not just their words. Many leaders say that integrity is important to them, but great leaders walk their talk by demonstrating integrity every day. Harping on people all day long about the behavior you want to see has a tiny fraction of the impact you achieve by demonstrating that behavior yourself.

Be transparent. Good managers are transparent and forthcoming about company goals, expectations, and plans. When managers try to sugarcoat, mask, or euphemize in order to make things seem better than they are, employees see right through it.

Be humble. Few things kill motivation as quickly as a boss’s arrogance. Great bosses don’t act as though they’re better than you, because they don’t think that they’re better than you. Rather than being a source of prestige, they see their leadership position as bringing them additional accountability for serving those who follow them.

Take a genuine interest in employees’ work-life balance. Nothing burns good employees out quite like overworking them. It’s so tempting to work your best people hard that managers frequently fall into this trap. Overworking good employees is perplexing to them; it makes them feel as if they’re being punished for their great performance. Overworking employees is also counterproductive. New research from Stanford shows that productivity per hour declines sharply when the workweek exceeds 50 hours, and productivity drops off so much after 55 hours that you don’t get anything out of the extra time spent.

Bringing It All Together

If you cultivate the characteristics above and avoid the demotivators, you’ll become the kind of boss that people remember for the rest of their careers.

Have you seen these motivators and demotivators in action? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

Eternal Love

It’s a beautiful feeling
What we got deep inside
We got a flame that will last forever
Together you and I

Such a rush of emotions
There’s no way we can push it away
Cuz they’ll never tear our love apart
Our bond will never break

Do you believe in the power
Of everlasting love
We can make it if we stay together
Our love is just enough

Promise me this forever
We’ll always stay this way
We can start at the end of time
And do it all again

Oh my love
I’m all yours
And there will never be another one
‘cause I’m eternally yours
My heart’s a flame
And it’s burning in your name
Even through the sands of time
My love will always grow
And I won’t let go

No matter if you’re near or far
Our bond will never break

Promise me this forever
We’ll always stay this way
We can start at the end of time
And do it all again

Becoming a Better Version of Myself: 4 Simple Steps That Make a Big Difference

Life is a constant stream of change, and as time flows, we should evolve along with it, should always striving to embrace the opportunity to become a better version of ourselves.

If you’re like me, you’ve probably pondered about becoming a better version of yourself.

Well, good news: the path to personal growth doesn’t have to be complicated.

In fact, I’ve discovered four simple steps that have helped me transform my life in meaningful ways. Let’s dive in and explore these steps together.

Step 1: Set Clear Goals

Picture this: You’re on a road trip without a map or a destination in mind. You’ll likely end up lost and frustrated.

Similarly, setting clear goals is like charting a map for your personal growth journey.

Define what you want to achieve, whether it’s landing that dream job, improving your fitness, or nurturing your relationships.

For instance, let’s say you want to improve your health. Instead of vaguely saying, “I want to get fit,” set a specific goal like, “I will jog for 30 minutes every morning and reduce sugary snacks to twice a week.”

This clarity will guide your actions and keep you motivated.

Step 2: Continuous Learning

Imagine life as a never-ending classroom, where each experience is an opportunity to learn.

Whether it’s picking up a new skill, reading a book, or simply reflecting on your day, continuous learning keeps your mind sharp and your perspective fresh.

Consider this: You’re learning to play the guitar. At first, your fingers fumble, and the chords sound off.

But with practice and patience, your skills improve.

Embrace this process in all areas of life, and soon you’ll realize how much growth comes from simply being open to learning.

Step 3: Embrace Failure as a Friend

Let’s face it, we all stumble sometimes.

But instead of letting failure discourage you, see it as a stepping stone.

Think about learning to ride a bike.

Did you master it without a few falls? Each stumble taught you balance and resilience.

In the same way, don’t let setbacks define you.

Use them to learn, adapt, and grow. Remember, failure is a sign that you’re pushing your boundaries and trying new things.

Step 4: Practice Self-Compassion

Think about how you treat your closest friend when they’re going through a tough time. Chances are, you offer them understanding, kindness, and encouragement.

Now, why not treat yourself the same way?

Being kind to yourself, especially during setbacks, is essential for personal growth. Imagine you’re struggling with a project at work.

Instead of berating yourself for not getting it right, take a moment to acknowledge your effort and remind yourself that mistakes happen.

This self-compassion not only boosts your self-esteem but also fuels your determination to keep improving.

Conclusion:

Becoming a better version of yourself is a journey worth taking, and it doesn’t have to be complicated.

By setting clear goals, embracing continuous learning, seeing failure as an opportunity, and practicing self-compassion, you’re well on your way to meaningful personal growth.

Just remember, this journey is uniquely yours.

Celebrate every small victory, learn from every stumble, and watch yourself blossom into the incredible person you’re meant to be.

I Haven’t Changed

I haven’t changed
I am still that strange young man
who was singing love songs to you
who was inventing Sundays for you
who was making you travel…
I haven’t changed
I am still that guy a little bit mad
who used to tell you about America
but he wasn’t rich enough
to take you to Corfu (Greek Island

And you haven’t changed either
still the same light perfume
still the same little smile

I wanted to protect you
to look after you, to belong to you
I wanted to come back to you.
I haven’t changed

I haven’t changed
I am still choosing the road I please
Only one road on Earth
has succeeded to make me like it,
the one we were following together…