I speak of silences
with stars
silences for two
with signs
and messages
and sculptures of complicity
a soft silence like tenderness
and exhilarating Love
We recognize true love in that the silence of the other is no longer a void to be filled
but a complicity to be respected
There are things that your partner needs to hear you say on a consistent basis in order to feel deeply loved.
Some of which they know about, and some of them, they don’t.
Communication is key in intimate relationships and it helps to be intentional about telling your partner what they need to hear from you.
Behold! A concise reminder of things that your partner would love to hear, and hear often.
Focus on bringing these tips into your relationship and see your partner open up like never before.
I am a firm believer in the concept that a thriving relationship occurs when two independent, emotionally stable people decide that they want to help each other live the most fulfilling lives possible.
One way to communicate that is by saying any variation of “I want to help you in any way that I can.”
“Please don’t hesitate to let me know if you feel like I could make your life easier in any way.”
“I want to always be a positive influence in your life. Is there anything I could do today that would take some pressure off of you?”
Even something as simple as picking up their dry cleaning could have a measurable impact on their stress level on a certain day… so keep your ears out for things that you can do to help them.
I’m not suggesting that you need to take on their responsibilities or moods as your own, but being willing to help them out (and communicating that mindset) is always appreciated.
Just because you’re in a relationship with them doesn’t mean you get to stop dating them.
Whether it’s pre-planned or (better yet) a surprise, taking your partner out on dates will keep your connection growing over time.
Not sure what to do on your big night out?
Try an activity date like bowling, rock climbing, or taking a cooking class. Want something a bit more romantic and intimate? Turn off your phones, remove any technology from your evening (except for the music), light some candles, and have some dedicated connection time in your bedroom.
Whether you engage in a dedicated sex date or just want to discuss your lives, ambitions, and relationship, actively dating your partner will make them feel loved and appreciated.
Many people assume that just because they are in a relationship with someone, their partner knows that they must enjoy their company.
While this is often the case, a simple “I love having you around. Just seeing your beautiful face makes my heart warm” can go a LONG way with certain people.
Try it out. Your partner might respond better than you thought possible.
One cornerstone of communication is the daily catch up.
While these don’t necessarily need to happen on a daily basis, showing that you genuinely care about what is going on in your partner’s life is a nice gesture.
The key to making this work? Asking “How was your day?” and then listening all the way through.
Listen attentively, give positive reinforcement (“That’s so great that you finished that project on time. I’m not surprised at all because you’re so hard working, but still… well done!”), and help them solve their problems if they ask you to.
Presumably you are in a relationship with your partner because you like them and they bring value to your life in some way. So tell them about it!
A basic script could play out like “Because you are so (character trait), I constantly feel (what you feel) in our relationship. And I thank you for that.”
“Because you’re so generous with your loving energy, I constantly feel taken care of and loved in our relationship.”
“Because you’re so driven and hard working, I constantly feel pushed forward and motivated in my own life.”
If what they bring to your life isn’t immediately apparent, take the time to write down a few ideas, and then commit to telling them about what you came up with in the next few days.
Your partner wants to feel like you’re on their side (at least the majority of the time).
Sprinkling hints of “You were right/allowed to do that/totally in the right in that situation” throughout your conversations shows them that you’re on their team.
She asks if you can do her a favour? You answer “I can do you two favours.”
She says “I felt like I had been good all week so I had a cupcake with lunch”? You reply with “Good for you. You could have had ten if you wanted.”
Be on their side. Support them in their decisions.
You find your partner attractive on multiple levels.
You can compliment their physical appearance (You look mesmerizing/beautiful/fantastic/stunning/ridiculously cute. I love your hair/outfit/legs/hips/nose so much.)
Or you can compliment their character and personality (I love how caring/nurturing/open minded/communicative you are.)
Your partner’s choices tie back to who they are at a deeper level. By noticing those choices and verbalizing your appreciation, they will feel seen and loved.
Examples of physical appearance compliments: “Your hair/outfit/dress/lips look/looks really sexy right now. Seriously, I love it.”
Examples of lifestyle/character compliments: “I love that you were able to get yourself up out of bed and going for a run/workout/exercise so early in the morning. I find that incredibly sexy that you take care of yourself like that.”
It’s easy to let your partner become less of a priority on your list when you slip from a “wanting” mindset to a “having” mindset.
Tell them “I will always put you first, and if I ever forget please give me a nudge to wake me up to reality. You are the most important person in my life and I want to make sure you always feel like you are.”
Don’t take your partner for granted.
Tell them “I’m so glad you’re my girlfriend/wife/partner. Sometimes I see you from a distance and I’m like ‘Wow, that is one ridiculously beautiful and classy looking woman.’ And then I realize that I’m already dating you and I feel like the luckiest person in the world.”
It’s inevitable that you are going to mess up. Make sure you are clearing the air with them when you do.
I left the most obvious (and most important) for last. This little phrase can’t be said enough. Say it upon waking, before they leave for their day, via text while you’re apart, after you kiss, and before you go to sleep.
Say it like you mean it. Don’t just go through the motions. Tell them you love them… don’t just verbalize it.
You know what to do, now it’s time to do it.
Commit to saying at least one of these things to your partner in the next 48 hours. The sooner you take action, the better.
Each of us has our own favorite romantic songs……I am beyond words!
This song was written by Don Gibson in 1958. Charles recorded the song four years later after listening to the first two lines of the song.
It is one of the best romantic songs of the late singer Whitney Houston. It is also known as the singer’s signature song.
This romantic love song was written by Michael Masser, an R & B songwriter, and Gerry Goffin, a famous pop songwriter.
The song was originally sung by Bob Dylan in 1997. It also has two different versions which were done by Garth Brooks and Billy Joel. However, Adele’s version was the one which touched a lot of people.
Can you really find love in a hopeless place? This song is one of Rihanna’s greatest hits and it is also one of the best romantic songs.
When Robin, Barry and Maurice Gibb wrote the song for the movie “Saturday Night Fever”, they do not have any idea what the movie is all about. They originally want Yvonne Elliman to sing the song. However, Robert Stigwood, the group’s manager, asserted that the group should record the song.
This song became a hit when it was featured in Brooke Shields’ movie, “Love Story”. It was written by Lionel Richie. At first it was only an instrumental but later on Franco Zeffirelli, the director of the movie, requested the singer to add some lyrics to it.
This song was written by John Deacon, the bassist of the band, and dedicated this to his wife. It became one of the most enduring romantic songs of all time because of the deepest message of love.
Christine McVie wrote this song for his husband John. It talks about her affair with another man which caused their breakup. John would probably want to hear this song over and over again.
According to Paul McCartney, this is the first ever ballad that impressed him. Despite the fact that is was in number 12 in the chart but it is considered as one of the greatest romantic songs of the group.
This lovely romantic love song was featured in the movie, “Unchained” which was released in 1955. The song has three different versions in 1955. It was performed by Al Hibbler, Roy Hamilton and Les Baxter. In 1965, the Righteous Brothers released their own version. It became a hit single in 1990 when it was included in the movie, “Ghost.”
Peter Gabriel’s “In Your Eyes” is one of the nicest romantic songs ever written. It was featured in John Cusack’s movie, “Say Anything…” It is known as one of the best romantic love songs in the 80’s.
Eric Clapton dedicated this song to his girlfriend Pattie Boyd. It was featured in the album Slowhand and became one of the top 20 singles in 1978.
This lovely love song was Robert Plant’s Valentine’s gift to his wife. Its lyrics are quite heavy and can definitely touch your hearts – “If the sun refused to shine, I would still be loving you”
Billy Joel dedicated this romantic song to his wife Elizabeth. It became number 3 in the Billboard Hot 100. It also won Grammy Awards for the Song and Record of the year.
This song by the Beach Boys has the most fabulous melodies. This is why; a lot of artists have already done their own versions of the song, “God Only Knows.”
Paul McCartney wrote this song for his lovely wife Linda McCartney. It was first featured on his first solo album entitled, “McCartney”. Later on, a live version of the song was included in the album “Wings Over America”.
3. Your Song – Elton John
“Your Song” was written by Elton John and Bernie Taupin. Despite the fact that they have finished writing the song in a short period of time but it became one of the most enduring romantic songs. The song expresses pure feelings of love.
This song was written by Ewan MacColl in 1957. He dedicated this song to Peggy Seeger who eventually became his wife. It was interpreted by a lot of artists. However, the version of Roberta Flack in 1972 was the one who became famous. “The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face” became number one in the US pop chart after it was featured in the movie, “Play Misty For Me.”
This song is considered as the all-time greatest romantic song from the Beatles. When George Harrison wrote this song, he admitted that he was greatly inspired by one of James Taylor’s song which is entitled “Something in the Way She Moves”, which is coincidentally the first line of the song. According to Harrison, the song was not actually meant for his wife. “Something” is one of the greatest romantic songs ever written.
These are just some of the most romantic songs ever written. When you hear these romantic songs, you will surely felt the emotions of love in it. Singing a love song to your loved one is one way of showing her how much you love her.
