10 Ways Creativity Can Completely Change Your Life

“Life is a great big canvas. Throw all the paint you can on it.” ~Danny Kaye

I’ve had those days when I felt like my life was in the doldrums. When I felt stuck in the same-old, same-old and wondered how to get a pick me up. When I wished I had more passion or purpose or maybe just a jolt of joy to shake things up.

Sometimes there were things I thought might make me happy, but I couldn’t have them just because I wanted them. Like, I couldn’t just snap my fingers and meet the man who sweeps me off my feet or become a kazillionaire.

But there is something that’s always at my (and your) fingertips. Something we always have that will instantaneously make us happy, right now in this moment.

But the things we enjoy are far more important than we could ever realize and can make a significant impact on our lives.

Here are ten reasons why (and there are so many more):

1. Creativity makes us present.

Because we’re doing something we like to do, we’re engaged in the moment. Time passes in an instant ’cause we’re just having some good ol’ fun.

When I paint, write, knit, dance, or cook it’s like active meditation. Being present with myself dials up my knob of attention and wakes me up.

Creativity stimulates us to be more mindfully in tune with our overall lives. It also calms our nervous system, decreases anxiety, and helps restore balance.

2. We better our relationships.

Simply because we enjoy doing something we love, we connect to ourselves more intimately. We develop a profound relationship with our inner selves.

The more we connect to ourselves, the more we’re able to connect to others and deepen all of our relationships. This secures healthier bonds.

And because we’re more fulfilled, the less we need others to fulfill us and the more we have to share. Our happiness expands and others feel it too and want to spend more time with us.

3. We’re playing again.

As kids we could create anything and have fun with it without worrying about what other people thought.

We could sing out loud in the car, turn a mud-pie into a monster, or let our stuffed animals have conversations. We were all free in one-way or another.

Creativity returns us to the innocence of our childhoods. And giving ourselves a break from the pressures of adult responsibility, we become lighter and increase our sense of humor as we delight in the pleasure of our amusements.

4. We’re led to new wonderful opportunities.

The current of creativity is like a river finding its sea. It always leads us to bigger waters. So even a small creative project might open us to whole new possibilities. We never know where it might lead.

On a whim I got this idea to make a board game. My friends loved to play it and soon, I was hosting game parties once a month at my house for up to thirty people. It became such a wonderful way to bring people together, a publisher picked it up and today everyone can play it.

But we don’t do it for product. We do it for pure joy and interest.

For sure with any kind of project, as our creative juices get flowing, there’s an infinite pool to draw from to keep our inventiveness growing.

5. Depression is lifted.

While doing the things we enjoy, even if it seems small or easy, the self-judgments we make (like we’re not enough, or bad, or we don’t matter) are suspended. We do it just because of the sheer delight of doing it.

It’s the permission we give to ourselves to do what we love that makes us forget we’re in the slumps. The more we engage, the more our spirits fly.

Doing something that is not demanding or to win is the antidote to any dreariness or blahs. My mood always uplifts when I’m creating something just for my own gratification.

6. It’s always new.

Every time we make stuff we’re embarking on fresh, unknown territory. Each time we begin and as we continue, we’re traversing on a new adventure.

Creativity has this awesome way of always changing things up. Even if it seems “mundane” like stirring a soup, or knitting a loop, or moving my body, it always brings a different experience.

A plus is it also initiates new perspectives.

7. We get out of our own way.

When doing something we enjoy, we’re focused on the act of doing it rather than self-ruminating. It immediately gets us out of our head.

So much of our unhappiness is bred from being fixed and consumed by our thoughts and behaviors. We tend to observe our feelings, words, and actions far too often.

But when we’re engaged creatively, we’re freed from any internal traps that say something about us, especially because it doesn’t have to be so serious.

It’s also the #1 best replacement for any addictions.

8. We become amazed by our intuition.

We may wonder what gives us pleasure when we feel stuck. But there’s always something whispering to us.

That’s the beauty of creativity. It might be telling us to take a pottery class, or sign up for a book club, or learn a new spiritual practice because it knows this will add some sparkle and enliven us.

When we listen, we realize that we’re being led by something much greater than us. The more we listen, the more astounded we are by what lives inside us.

9. We build character.

As we attend to our creativity, we feel better about ourselves. This simple act of showing up serves our self-respect and confidence.

The more we make pleasurable, creative acts a priority, the more we rejuvenate, strengthen, and grow.

Each time I sit down to write and my fingers get moving, I feel proud of myself for meeting the blank page head on.

The overall gain is a greater sense of gratitude.

10. Love begets love.

The more we cultivate what we love, the more love we accumulate. Our cup flows over.

Clearly there are days we may show up to do something we enjoy and it isn’t always enjoyable. Sometimes the cake doesn’t rise, the paint spills, or my muscles are sore. But finding creative ways to solve the problems can be fun if we continue.

When we don’t worry about how it turns out and we do it simply for the wonder of exploration, our heart expands and love abounds. And this spreads out into our entire life.

So, what’s compelling you to create? What might creativity be telling you to do because it’s sure you’ll gain from it? What if you just said yes to your freedom, fun, and happiness?

Failure as a Stepping Stone!

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Navigating the Path to Success through Resilience and Learning

Abstract: This academic piece explores the concept of failure as an intrinsic and transformative element on the journey to success. By examining the psychological, social, and educational dimensions of failure, we delve into the ways individuals can harness setbacks as stepping stones toward personal and professional growth. Through resilience, adaptability, and a mindset shift, failure becomes a catalyst for innovation, self-discovery, and long-term success.

Introduction: In the pursuit of personal and professional excellence, the fear of failure often looms large. However, this paper posits that failure, rather than being a stumbling block, can serve as a valuable stepstone toward success. The exploration of failure as an essential component in the learning process is not only a psychological shift but also a socio-educational imperative.

Psychological Dimensions of Failure: Understanding the psychological impact of failure is paramount to embracing it as a constructive force. The fear of failure often stems from societal expectations, self-imposed pressures, and the misconception that success is a linear trajectory. Psychologists argue that reframing failure as a natural part of the learning journey reduces anxiety and fosters resilience. Embracing failure as a psychological pivot point can lead to increased self-awareness and emotional intelligence.

Resilience and Adaptability: Resilience, defined as the ability to bounce back from adversity, plays a crucial role in transforming failure into a stepping stone. Individuals who cultivate resilience view setbacks as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles. Adaptability, another key trait, allows individuals to adjust their strategies, learn from failures, and approach challenges with a dynamic mindset. Together, resilience and adaptability create a formidable toolkit for navigating the complexities of personal and professional life.

Learning from Failure: Central to the concept of failure as a stepping stone is the emphasis on learning. Failures, when dissected and analyzed, provide invaluable lessons. Whether in academia, business, or personal endeavors, the process of learning from failure demands reflection, feedback analysis, and a commitment to continuous improvement. Learning from failure not only enhances individual knowledge but also contributes to collective wisdom, fostering innovation and progress.

Educational Dimensions: In educational settings, the fear of failure can hinder creativity and critical thinking. This paper argues for a paradigm shift in educational systems, where failure is not penalized but embraced as a catalyst for innovation. Incorporating failure-tolerant environments, project-based learning, and mentorship programs can nurture resilience and prepare students for the challenges of the real world.

Conclusion: Failure, when viewed through the lens of resilience, adaptability, and a commitment to learning, becomes a transformative force on the path to success. By shifting the narrative around failure from one of shame to one of growth, individuals and societies can unlock the potential for innovation,personal development, and lasting success.

Stay tuned for more!

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My Angel, My Love

What you’ve done, you’ve illuminated my soul.
It’s you and your love that has made me whole.
The feel of your love, your soft touch and caress,
We’re tight, so close; your heart beats in my chest.

All that we have always felt missing before.
Though I love you today, tomorrow it will be more.
Our love is life; we are the strongest tree,
Which will always grow forever, like you and me.

You have opened my heart and held it so dear.
You are my angel and will always keep it near.
You have seen my ups and cared when I was low.
You are my angel; I just need you to know.

You entered my life through a ray of sun above,
And when we leave, we will leave together in love.
My love for you has become my reason to be.
I hope one day you’ll find your angel in me.

I Love You

I love your lips when they’re wet with wine
And red with a wild desire;
I love your eyes when the lovelight lies
Lit with a passionate fire.
I love your arms when the warm white flesh
Touches mine in a fond embrace;
I love your hair when the strands enmesh
Your kisses against my face.

Not for me the cold, calm kiss
Of a virgin’s bloodless love;
Not for me the saint’s white bliss,
Nor the heart of a spotless dove.
But give me the love that so freely gives
And laughs at the whole world’s blame,
With your body so young and warm in my arms,
It sets my poor heart aflame.

So kiss me sweet with your warm wet mouth,
Still fragrant with ruby wine,
And say with a fervor born of the South
That your body and soul are mine.
Clasp me close in your warm young arms,
While the pale stars shine above,
And we’ll live our whole young lives away
In the joys of a living love.

I LOVE YOU

Oh baby you are the air that I breath
you are the only one for me
I know it’s hard for you to believe
That you and I belong together
I really need you to stay
Don’t let this light on us ever fade
I know that love will lead us the way
And we are meant to be forever
Baby, don’t let this feeling go away
I’m here to love you night and day
Please do believe me when I say

Baby, don’t let this feeling go away
I’m here to love you night and day
Please, do believe me when I say
Te amo

7 Ways Leaders Motivate and Demotivate Employees

7 Ways Leaders Motivate and Demotivate Employees

Few things are as costly and disruptive as leaders who kill morale. Demotivated employees underperform and then walk out the door at the first opportunity.

The scariest thing is how prevalent this lack of motivation is. Gallup research shows that 70% of employees consider themselves to be disengaged at work.

Organizations know how important it is to have motivated, engaged employees, but most fail to hold leaders accountable for making it happen. When they don’t, the bottom line suffers.

Research from the University of California found that motivated employees were 31% more productive, had 37% higher sales, and were three times more creative than demotivated employees. They were also 87% less likely to quit, according to a Corporate Leadership Council study on over 50,000 people.

Gallup research shows that a mind-boggling 70% of an employee’s motivation is influenced by his or her manager. It’s no wonder employees don’t leave jobs; they leave managers.

First, Quit Making Things Worse

Before leaders can start creating motivated, engaged employees, there are some critical things that they need to stop doing. What follows are some of the worst behaviors that leaders need to eradicate from the workplace.

Making a lot of stupid rules. Companies need to have rules—that’s a given—but they don’t have to be short sighted and lazy attempts at creating order. Whether it’s an overzealous attendance policy or taking employees’ frequent flier miles, even a couple of unnecessary rules can drive people crazy. When good employees feel like big brother is watching, they’ll find someplace else to work.

Letting accomplishments go unrecognized. It’s easy to underestimate the power of a pat on the back, especially with top performers who are intrinsically motivated. Everyone likes kudos, none more so than those who work hard and give their all. Rewarding individual accomplishments shows that you’re paying attention. Managers need to communicate with their people to find out what makes them feel good (for some, it’s a raise; for others, it’s public recognition) and then to reward them for a job well done. With top performers, this will happen often if you’re doing it right.

Hiring and promoting the wrong people. Good, hard-working employees want to work with like-minded professionals. When managers don’t do the hard work of hiring good people, it’s a major demotivator for those stuck working alongside them. Promoting the wrong people is even worse. When you work your tail off only to get passed over for a promotion that’s given to someone who glad-handed their way to the top, it’s a massive insult. No wonder it makes good people leave.

Treating everyone equally. While this tactic works with school children, the workplace ought to function differently. Treating everyone equally shows your top performers that no matter how high they perform (and, typically, top performers are work horses), they will be treated the same as the bozo who does nothing more than punch the clock.

Tolerating poor performance. It’s said that in jazz bands, the band is only as good as the worst player; no matter how great some members may be, everyone hears the worst player. The same goes for a company. When you permit weak links to exist without consequence, they drag everyone else down, especially your top performers.

Going back on their commitments. Making promises to people places you on the fine line that lies between making them very happy and watching them walk out the door. When you uphold a commitment, you grow in the eyes of your employees because you prove yourself to be trustworthy and honorable (two very important qualities in a boss). But when you disregard your commitment, you come across as slimy, uncaring, and disrespectful. After all, if the boss doesn’t honor his or her commitments, why should everyone else?

Being apathetic. More than half of people who leave their jobs do so because of their relationship with their boss. Smart companies make certain their managers know how to balance being professional with being human. These are the bosses who celebrate an employee’s success, empathize with those going through hard times, and challenge people, even when it hurts. Bosses who fail to really care will always have high turnover rates. It’s impossible to work for someone eight-plus hours a day when they aren’t personally involved and don’t care about anything other than your productivity.

Then, Make Things Better

Once leaders have eradicated the seven negative behaviors that demotivate their best people, it’s time to replace them with the following seven behaviors that make people love their jobs.

Follow the platinum rule. The Golden Rule (treat others as you want to be treated) has a fatal flaw: it assumes that all people want to be treated the same way. It ignores the fact that people are motivated by vastly different things. One person loves public recognition, while another loathes being the center of attention. The Platinum Rule (treat others as they want to be treated) corrects that flaw. Good managers are great at reading other people, and they adjust their behavior and style accordingly.

Be strong without being harsh. Strength is an important quality in a leader. People will wait to see if a leader is strong before they decide to follow his or her lead or not. People need courage in their leaders. They need someone who can make difficult decisions and watch over the good of the group. They need a leader who will stay the course when things get tough. People are far more likely to show strength themselves when their leader does the same. A lot of leaders mistake domineering, controlling, and otherwise harsh behavior for strength. They think that taking control and pushing people around will somehow inspire a loyal following. Strength isn’t something you can force on people; it’s something you earn by demonstrating it time and again in the face of adversity. Only then will people trust that they should follow you.

Remember that communication is a two-way street. Many managers think that they’re great communicators, not realizing that they’re only communicating in one direction. Some pride themselves on being approachable and easily accessible, yet they don’t really hear the ideas that people share with them. Some managers don’t set goals or provide context for the things they ask people to do, and others never offer feedback, leaving people wondering if they’re more likely to get promoted or fired.

Be a role model, not a preacher. Great leaders inspire trust and admiration through their actions, not just their words. Many leaders say that integrity is important to them, but great leaders walk their talk by demonstrating integrity every day. Harping on people all day long about the behavior you want to see has a tiny fraction of the impact you achieve by demonstrating that behavior yourself.

Be transparent. Good managers are transparent and forthcoming about company goals, expectations, and plans. When managers try to sugarcoat, mask, or euphemize in order to make things seem better than they are, employees see right through it.

Be humble. Few things kill motivation as quickly as a boss’s arrogance. Great bosses don’t act as though they’re better than you, because they don’t think that they’re better than you. Rather than being a source of prestige, they see their leadership position as bringing them additional accountability for serving those who follow them.

Take a genuine interest in employees’ work-life balance. Nothing burns good employees out quite like overworking them. It’s so tempting to work your best people hard that managers frequently fall into this trap. Overworking good employees is perplexing to them; it makes them feel as if they’re being punished for their great performance. Overworking employees is also counterproductive. New research from Stanford shows that productivity per hour declines sharply when the workweek exceeds 50 hours, and productivity drops off so much after 55 hours that you don’t get anything out of the extra time spent.

Bringing It All Together

If you cultivate the characteristics above and avoid the demotivators, you’ll become the kind of boss that people remember for the rest of their careers.

Have you seen these motivators and demotivators in action? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below, as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.

Don’t break my heart

You are my reason to live
Yes, you are
I need your touch

Don’t break my heart

I close my eyes
I know that you are by my side
I feel your touch
It’s like a dream of paradise
I can’t explain
It’s like an ocean of happiness
There’s magic now in the air
Oh baby let’s play this game

Don’t break my heart
And be my love tonight
Don’t lose your way
I will light you in the night

Babe I would stop the world
And break the rules to be with you
Don’t break my heart
Baby don’t break my heart

You wanna fly
And leave me like a broken toy
I need your breath to save my heart
To save my way
Don’t hurt me babe
I hope that you will understand
That you are my reason to live
The one and only for me

Don’t break my heart
And be my love tonight
Don’t lose your way
I will light you in the night

Babe I would stop the world
And break the rules to be with you
Don’t break my heart
Baby don’t break my heart

I love you
Don’t break my heart
I need your breath
You are the one
The only one

Don’t Break My Heart

 

You are my reason to live
Yes, you are
I need your touch

Don’t break my heart

I close my eyes
I know that you are by my side
I feel your touch
It’s like a dream of paradise
I can’t explain
It’s like an ocean of happiness
There’s magic now in the air
Oh baby let’s play this game

Don’t break my heart
And be my love tonight
Don’t lose your way
I will light you in the night

Babe I would stop the world
And break the rules to be with you
Don’t break my heart
Baby don’t break my heart

You wanna fly
And leave me like a broken toy
I need your breath to save my heart
To save my way
Don’t hurt me babe
I hope that you will understand
That you are my reason to live
The one and only for me

Don’t break my heart
And be my love tonight
Don’t lose your way
I will light you in the night

Babe I would stop the world
And break the rules to be with you
Don’t break my heart
Baby don’t break my heart

I love you
Don’t break my heart
I need your breath
You are the one
The only one

I want my kisses back from you

 

I want my kisses back from youI’m takin’ all my kisses back from youAnd every breath you held on toI’m takin’ all my kisses back from youGive me the hello’s and goodbyesAnd pack up every morning and goodnightI want the sunrises and moonsI’m takin’ all my kisses backI want my kisses back from you

 

I want my kisses back, I want my kisses back
I want my kisses back from you
Kisses back, I want my kisses back
I want my kisses back, I want my kisses back from you
I want my kisses back, I want my kisses back
I want my kisses back from you
Kisses back, I want my kisses back
I’m takin’ all my kisses back
I want my kisses back from you

Eternal Love

It’s a beautiful feeling
What we got deep inside
We got a flame that will last forever
Together you and I

Such a rush of emotions
There’s no way we can push it away
Cuz they’ll never tear our love apart
Our bond will never break

Do you believe in the power
Of everlasting love
We can make it if we stay together
Our love is just enough

Promise me this forever
We’ll always stay this way
We can start at the end of time
And do it all again

Oh my love
I’m all yours
And there will never be another one
’cause I’m eternally yours
My heart’s a flame
And it’s burning in your name
Even through the sands of time
My love will always grow
And I won’t let go

No matter if you’re near or far
Our bond will never break

Promise me this forever
We’ll always stay this way
We can start at the end of time
And do it all again